How to Break Up A Relationship Without Feeling Guilty

It is never easy to finally put an end to a relationship that you treasured all this time. While getting dumped can be sad, doing the dumping is just equally difficult or even more so. If the world was perfect, doing it face to face could have been the best way of breaking free from a relationship with no feelings of guilt at all. But, the world is far from perfect and telling your partner that you want the relationship to end almost feels like asking your boss for a vacation leave when you only joined the company for a week. It seems like the most appropriate way of ending a relationship will often depend on how long you have been with the person. After all, you will indeed not feel as much guilt if you are ending it with someone you have been with for only ten weeks compared to someone you shared your life with for ten years. If it is time to let go and say goodbye, here are some step-by-step tips on how to break up a relationship without feeling guilty at all

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Break Up in Person and Avoid Doing It in Public 


Break Up in Person and Avoid Doing It in Public


Unless the other person did something horrible or out of line and you still have respect for them, always break up in person. Now, this may sound more difficult, but this is the best thing you can do. While you are it, try not to do it out in public.


Avoid Making a Scene and Control Yourself


Avoid Making a Scene and Control Yourself

It is totally fine to feel distraught. It is also okay to feel like you are being torn apart inside out. There is also nothing wrong with wanting your partner to feel the same. But, wishing bad things to happen to the other person is childish. Control yourself. Don’t be afraid to express your pain and grieve. But, avoid doing anything stupid.


Don’t Try Making the Other Person Feel Better.


Don’t Try Making the Other Person Feel Better.


Since you are the one who will do the dumping, there is one crucial thing to remember. After you end the relationship, you are no longer responsible for the emotions of the other person. It is also not your responsibility anymore to help the person cope. Trying to comfort your partner may make them feel much worse. It may also backfire since they may end up resenting you more when you try to be nice when you are the one dumping them.


Cut Off All Contacts for a While After the Breakup Out of Respect 


Cut Off All Contacts for a While After the Breakup Out of Respect


This is probably one of the things that many people are not brave enough to do. Most people choose to remain friends and force contact despite the emotional stress they feel. Studies show that people who limit their contact with each other tend to recover faster emotionally. It is not just reasonable to avoid seeing or talking to each other for some time because it is also healthy. Continuing your contact will only run the risk that you will set off a ticking emotional time bomb that might make things more complicated. Breaking up will never be easy, but you don’t always have to feel guilty if you follow these tips.

John Paul

John Paul is a senior editor at HotNaija. twitter

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